Marriage as a culturally and legally recognized union of individual(s) is established on certain guiding principles upon which it thrives. As a closed relationship, loyalty, fidelity and sincerity are expected between involved partners.
Marriage should be contracted willingly, free of threat and pressure but oftentimes, the reverse is the case as a number of marriages are contracted on grounds like parental influence, peer pressure, financial support amongst others which has immensely contributed to an increased rate of infidelity. In some occasions, young female adults are made to marry men for the purpose of gaining financial assistance for their immediate family, pressure from age grade who already are married, “the late marriage syndrome” while the men get married in certain cases for the singular purpose of reproducing, encouraged to marry women from same clan/kindred and of same societal class. These considerations have led to the establishment of marriages between undesirable partners.
Infidelity in marriages occurs in various forms like intimacy, disloyalty, betrayal etc.
In closed marriages, intimate faithfulness is expected but often not obtainable and arises from though not limited to unappealing sexual partners, sexual incompatibility/unattractiveness, quest for a change resulting from boring sexual practice.
Previously in Nigeria, the men engage greatly in marital infidelity when compared to the women because the society excuses such act with the believe that ‘ It’s a man’s world and men will always be men but currently infidelity cuts across gender and there is an urgent need to address it.
Such Critical decision involving adults must be undertaken with an understanding of what it entails after a close evaluation. Sexual incompatibility which has driven married partners to others can be curtailed by learning, understanding and improving on sexual capacity. Marriages should be contracted on grounds of love, respect of individuality and mutual benefit rather than selfish anterior purposes.
Article Written By Ohakwe Ifunanya Pearl